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  • Thinking Through Infinity with Projective Geometry

    Thinking Through Infinity with Projective Geometry

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    Quita Brodhead. Whence and Where To. 2000. Oil on canvas. 36-1/4 x 48 inches. Courtesy of Hollis Taggart Galleries, New York, and the Estate of Quita Brodhead

    I’d like to offer something from the realm of projective geometry, with respect to infinity, that is (believe it or not) very practical.  I have found that projective geometry offers something that is frankly unparalleled: a way to think towards infinity which is, at every step, clear and exact, brooks no nonsense, and is communicable and hygienic to boot.  If you follow the exercise, I guarantee you will learn something about infinity.  You will learn something of its signature, to use an esoteric term, and be able to recognize it when it shows up in other forms and within other processes. Also you can blow your friend’s minds at your next get-together if you lead them through this process, and spark some fascinating discussion that will leave everyone better than they were before.

    In order to think towards infinity we have to change the habitual patterns of thinking that are called forth and repeatedly solidified through the way we usually make sense of our daily interactions with the world.  We can, however, be led through a transparent process that requires no faith, no gaps or hidden elements, to push our mental conceptions to their limit, even to invert them.  It is a process that requires participation and fails when we feel like we “have it” or have reached an answer.  The change of perception only happens in the way the exercise functionally changes our ability to, if I may put it poetically, m/a/e/ssage our consciousness across the infinite boundary.  It only works while we are doing it: once we only remember what we have experienced afterwards as a (fallen) fact, we have lost the essential nature stirred momentarily to life in our awakened thinking.

    That’s just a little preparation.  There are many ways to do this with projective geometry, but the simplest requires only three elements: two lines and a point.

    Let us imagine: line (a) stretching, as it were, horizontally on the ground in front of you, spanning left and right into the distance. 

    Now remove everything but the line and enter the Platonic space of the form itself, with no other entities in this universe. Let this universe be uncurved across all scales (we could curve it later if we wish).

    Now imagine point P not on line (a).
    Draw a line (z) through P such that it intersects line (a) perpendicularly.
    Note lines (a) and (z) now intersect in a new point, X.

    This is the setup. 
    Now, rotate line (z) in a counterclockwise fashion around point P– not too fast, slowly at first, and note the change of position of X relative to P.
    Continue the counterclockwise rotation of (z) around P, pinning the origin of your focus to P while following exactly what is happening to X.

    Soon you will start to lose your sense of the exact position of X; you won’t be able to encompass it’s relative position to P in the same way that you could earlier, when it was “closer.”  This is the beginning point of transforming your relationship with infinity in reality.

    Continue the exercise, filling in with a more exact imagination the relationship of the geometric elements wherever your attention loses focus.  Meditate it.

    Now, rotate (z) until you reach the point of parallelality. 

    Notice. Notice your noticing and what has changed in it, when you reach this moment.

    What has happened to X?

    If you were to point to it, how exactly would you do so?

    Please, do your best to not make any jumps; no leaps or gaps — if you find yourself making such shifts, do your best to fill in the process with clear, exact thinking. If you find your lines starting to make strange bends, whip them back into their perfectly unwavering straightness and try again.

    Now let us reverse the process and rotate (z) clockwise around P until we feel we are back in a manageable situation that we can fully encompass with no loss of clarity at any point.

    Rest in this more normal situation for a moment.

    Now continue the clockwise rotation until we again approach “the problem” of parallelality.  

    Approach it with a fierce consciousness.

    Euclid got here, but he failed to follow the inherent logic he himself had already set up.  Perhaps his imagination was not sufficient to follow it through, completely, continuously, and coherently.  Also, infinity is scary. In his frustration, Euclid had to add postulate #5 that forever haunted him: the parallel postulate, which he avoided for as long as he could, invoking it only when he had no other choice.

    Notice newly: as (a) and (z) approach parallelality, X approaches infinity.
    Can we do more than “approach”? Can we “arrive”?  How?

    Notice that as X gets farther and farther away from P we must slow down the rotation of (z) in order to continue following it with the same exactness we did when it was closer.  As X goes on its infinite flight, every minor angle of rotation of (z) produces bigger and bigger effects, until … 

    Place your attention upon the situation where the angle between (a) and (z) is infinitesimally close to zero… the smallest possible further rotation will make them parallel.

    What can you say about this situation?
    Can you point to X?

    Now let us allow ourselves a little leeway, and rotate (z) through the moment of parallelality so that now we are infinitesimally rotated past parallel, without requiring ourselves to account for the position of X exactly at every moment of this smallest–and yet biggest–of journeys.
    Now point to X again.

    Let us now hone in on the “problem” of parallelality by saturating our attention on the oscillation of (z) around the moment of parallelality with (a).
    See X “jumping” from left to right and back again.
    Really push for the smallest imaginable angle away from parallelality and oscillate your attention around it, making the change in angle between (a) and (z) shrink and shrink, all the while following X.

    With this saturated consciousness, rest in the moment of parallelality.
    Now point to X again.
    In what direction are you required to point?

    Let us say now that X is “at infinity.”
    The finite position of X, made from the intersection of two non-parallel lines, is somehow now an infinite position, still made by the intersection of two lines: two parallel lines.
    Lines (z) and (a) never stop meeting; they never cease having a relationship that forms a unique and singular point, even when parallel. 

    Two lines meet in a point; it’s as simple as that.

    Notice now that point P can be anywhere. 
    Move point P away from line (a).

    Does this change anything essential about the situation?
    Where do you have to point to find X when (a) and (z) are parallel but farther apart?
    What about if you move P infinitely far away from (a)?  Does this change anything?

    See that all lines that are parallel to each other share a single point at infinity.

    Let this sink in.

    And now let us speed up and go farther:

    We could have placed our original line in any orientation.  Let us place a new line (a’) orthogonally to (a) and repeat the experiment with parallel line (z’) meeting in X’.

    See that when (a’) and (z’) are parallel, X’ is a different point at infinity than X.  What is different is its direction

    Let us be clear: we are now speaking about the very nature of directionality; its source.  Remember–no–see that the distance between (a) and (z) is irrelevant.  Every line that is parallel to (a) meets at the single point X at infinity.  We can “fill in” the plane entirely with lines parallel to (a): they all meet at X.  We can even fill the volume of three dimensional space with more parallel lines, all of which still meet at a single point.  The same continuation to higher flat dimensions holds (infinitely).

    The point X, when it is at infinity, defines an infinite space of directionality. We can say that directionality is constituted solely and essentially by a single point at infinity that defines it–that direction.

    But that direction, seen from “here,” from anywhere that is not at infinity, holds within itself a kind of strange duality. Normally when speaking of “a direction” we mean precisely the lack of every other direction. This only works when we ignore infinity. To include it requires that a single direction encompasses what is apparently its exact opposite: for any point X at infinity, it is simultaneously in two precisely opposing directions. Or perhaps it is better to say that every ‘single’ direction becomes its opposite through infinity. Another way to say this is that point X at infinity connects to itself through ‘finity’ via all possible lines parallel to and including (a). A given line “here” is nothing other than a unique token of the way directionality is made manifest from its single point at infinity. The single point at infinity X, unfolded into finity, is a line.

    Place yourself now at point X at infinity. You’ll have to jump there, if you can.
    Can you feel what it is like to inhabit this point?
    Where, now, is the line for which you are the point at infinity?

    Can you feel how there is an inversion that happens?
    To ‘get’ to infinity we cannot simply move along the line… this would require infinite time to accomplish.
    We have to flip over into infinity. Our consciousness cannot maintain coherence through this flip — it goes dark; there is a kind of threshold that prevents us from maintaining the same kind of wakefulness that lawfully got us to the moment of the flip. We have to abandon the very process that was the only reliable source of coherence in order to cross this threshold. But having trained ourselves via the process, we find that what meets us at the threshold is itself lawful, and that to pass through it our consciousness must perform a lawful act. This act is a kind of inversion; an insiding-out/outsiding-in, not just of consciousness but of space itself. It is making all the previous distinctions newly, but inversely. What was once approach is now recession. The center and the periphery have flipped into each other.

    When looking “from here” we can count steps of a process, we can traverse more or we can traverse less, we have extension and duration and all that comes with relating those together with finite means.

    When looking “from infinity” any step is a step “into” the non-infinite, an inversion into space and into process, into differentiable uniqueness. At infinity, uniqueness is, as it were, collapsed into itself; it is no longer expressed outwardly but only inwardly. All the potency spread out through space “here” is concretized inwardly at the infinite. From infinity the whole universe is found infinitely far within.

    Pause for a moment.

    Let us return and gain further contextualization.

    And as we have seen, parallel lines (a’) and (z’) meet in a different point at infinity, X’, which then constitutes the way that all possible space is contextualized from that specific (dual) direction.

    And see now that we must go further, and point out that X and X’ are two distinct points, which as we know, can be connected by a single line.

    Where is this line (x), that connects the two points at infinity X and X’?
    Can you point to another point on this line?

    See that any direction in the plane shared by (a) and (a’) has its point at infinity that lies on this new line (x).

    We must say that line (x) is a line at infinity, and that every point on this line is likewise at infinity.

    Can you imagine walking along this line at infinity?
    Can you feel something of the nature of this line at infinity, something of its character, its gesture?

    Place yourself at point X at infinity, and now look at point X’ at infinity — what direction is it in?
    If you wanted to reach it, how could you do so? What possible moves can you make and not fall back into non-infinite space?

    There is only one possible move, and that is to move orthogonally to the direction of the line (a), whose point at infinity you are. But you will have to move infinitely far along the orthogonal direction.

    See how infinity becomes contextualized by orthogonality in addition to directionality.

    Like any line, between any two points lie an infinity of other points. Let us imagine one such point X” between X and X’. Notice that no matter how close you place this new point X” to X, the two points are infinitely far away from each other along line (x). Notice that from “here” we meet line (x) always orthogonally, no matter which direction in the plane we point.

    Now we can see that just as the single point X at infinity concretizes itself across the infinite boundary as a line, so too the line (x) at infinity concretizes itself across the infinite boundary as a plane. A line at infinity is a plane “here.”

    We see that there is a tendency to think of this line at infinity as a kind of circle. It is the only form that we can recognize as having similar properties. The line at infinity surrounds us; I can point in any direction in the plane and will meet the line at infinity orthogonally to my pointing. Despite this, the line is always and only ever straight. It does not curve, waver, or fold. It is exactly as much a line as any other, constituted precisely by the way all its points share directionality. But we see that this directionality at infinity is always orthogonal to all directions by which its points are reached from “here.” When we follow our pointing from “here” to X and then to X” we can measure some precise angle swept by our arms (for remember, we must point in two directions simultaneously). It would seem then that if we meet the line (x) at infinity along direction (a) orthogonally, then change the angle of our pointing, surely we must now meet (x) at some angle other than 90 degrees? Yet this is not the case; we always meet it, in every direction, orthogonally to our pointing, and the line never curves to accommodate our limited thinking. It remains straight, and infinitely so.

    If you are on line (x) at infinity and wish to point in any direction other than along line (x), you must do so at 90 degrees to (x). All points not on line (x) are infinitely far away in the orthogonal direction, a direction shared across every point on line (x).

    Yet your intuition that the line (x) at infinity is a circle is, in a way, quite correct. In fact, the line (x) at infinity is an infinite circle whose center is everywhere.

    We cannot stop only at the line at infinity. Notice that there are infinitely many lines at infinity, each with their own unique directionality. Notice how any two lines that share a point define a plane. Notice how every line at infinity shares a single unique point with every other single line at infinity, and thus defines a single, unique plane at infinity? While it is possible “here” to have lines that are skew to each other and thus share no common point “here,” their respective points at infinity lie on a line at infinity, and this line is always a part of the same unique plane at infinity.

    Let this sink in. Just as there exists a single line at infinity for a given plane, that in some sense surrounds the plane and enfolds it within itself, so too there exists a single plane at infinity for a given volume, which surrounds that volume and enfolds it within itself. The line at infinity is the boundary of the two-dimensional plane; the plane at infinity is the boundary of the volume of three-dimensional space.

    From your position “here,” look in any direction. Follow this direction to infinity and you meet the unique, singular plane at infinity, and you meet it always and only orthogonally. Pascal gave no mere poetic turn of phrase when he said “Nature is an infinite sphere of which the center is everywhere and the circumference nowhere” — this is an exact imagination. Every place “here” is equidistant from the infinite plane at the periphery, and is thus equally the center as every other place “here.” The circumference of the infinite sphere is the plane at infinity, whose circumference is literally no-where; to be at infinity is to not have “a” place, to have no “here.” Infinity is an inversion of space, or perhaps its enfoldment within itself.

    Euclid illuminated the basic logic of relations between point, line, and plane “here,” but he could not encompass infinity with the same logic. Yet it is by logic that we ourselves can go deeper than Euclid, to see precisely and exactly what is required of us if we are to penetrate to the inner nature of infinity. Along the way we find that we must speak of the reality of directionality, orthogonality, and inversion as essential inner aspects of infinity.

    Follow the exact imaginative exercises presented here again and again until infinity saturates your consciousness; you will find that your phenomenological discoveries will forever recontextualize your relationship with what before was vague, confusing, and mysterious. The mystery, however, will only deepen.

  • Toward an Aesthetic Epistemology – Slideshow Overview

    Toward an Aesthetic Epistemology – Slideshow Overview

    In February 2014 I successfully defended my PhD dissertation, titled “Toward an Aesthetic Epistemology: Transforming Thinking through Cybernetic Epistemology and Anthroposophy.”

    The following is the abstract and a slideshow presentation that pulls out the crux of my arguments.

    Abstract

    The complexity, subtlety, interlinking, and scale of many problems faced individually and collectively in today’s rapidly changing world requires an epistemology—a way of thinking about our knowing—capable of facilitating new kinds of responses that avoid recapitulation of old ways of thinking and living. Epistemology, which implicitly provides the basis for engagement with the world via the fundamental act of distinction, must therefore be included as a central facet of any practical attempts at self/world transformation. We need to change how we think, not just what we think. The new epistemology needs to be of a higher order than the source of the problems we face.

    This theoretical, transdisciplinary dissertation argues that such a new epistemology needs to be recursive and process-oriented. This means that the thoughts about thinking that it produces must explicitly follow the patterns of thinking by which those thoughts are generated. The new epistemology is therefore also phenomenological, requiring the development of a reflexivity in thinking that recursively links across two levels of order—between content and process. The result is an epistemology that is of (and for) the whole human being. It is an enacted (will-imbued) and aesthetic (feeling-permeated) epistemology (thinking-penetrated) that is sensitive to and integrative of material, soul, and spiritual aspects of ourselves and our world. I call this kind of epistemology aesthetic, because its primary characteristic is found in the phenomenological, mutually fructifying and transformative marriage between the capacity for thinking and the capacity for feeling.

    Its foundations are brought forward through the confluence of multiple domains: cybernetic epistemology, the esoteric epistemology of anthroposophy (the spiritual science of Rudolf Steiner), and the philosophy of the implicit as developed by Eugene Gendlin.

    The practice of aesthetic epistemology opens new phenomenal domains of experience, shedding light on relations between ontology and epistemology, mind and body, logic and thinking, as well as on the formation (and transformation) of identity, the immanence of thinking in world-processes, the existence of different types of logic, and the nature of beings, of objects, and most importantly of thinking itself and its relationship to spirit.

    Keywords: anthroposophy, autopoiesis, cognition, cybernetic epistemology, distinction, epistemology, esotericism, logic, recursion, Rudolf Steiner, second-order cybernetics, spirituality, thinking

    Slideshow

    thetaPlease note that Slideshare translated the Greek letter Theta into the letter Q. This is unfortunate, because I used the Greek letter for its geometric shape, pictured correctly at left.

  • Embracing the paradox of Being: A relational view of epistemology, ontology, logic and difference.

    Embracing the paradox of Being: A relational view of epistemology, ontology, logic and difference.

    Let’s get right to it, shall we?

    With respect to ontology, let us say that there is no “it,” no independent reality that is exclusive of the observer.  This is a basic insight from second-order cybernetics: the observer must always be included in the observed.  Despite this, of course, we do have much talk and thinking about “it” that does not take the observer into account—we are very interested in the “what” of the universe, but have a fairly difficult time illuminating our own nature.  But this is okay, because ultimately the talk about “it,” the pointing to “it,” (not the thought of the “it” itself) is more fundamental to “it” than anything else, because it is the relations that are primary.  We can say that thingness is a subset of relatedness.  Following Eugene Gendlin’s (1997, p. 22) process-concept of “interaction-first,” we can conceive of relations not as forming between two already-existing “things,” but rather as being recursively self-generated between other relations.  In this sense, things are the precipitate of relations, a hardening out of a more fluid state.

    Elemental Cycle

    Going further than Gendlin, we can take a cue from the process-language of alchemy (Miller, 2008) to see how relations themselves are a precipitate of the tension between complementarily opposing potentials, made by a distinction out of the whole.  This corresponds to the recursive ontological alchemical sequencing of the elements from Fire (the whole) to Air (polarity) to Water (relation) to Earth (thing), to Fire (a new, transformed whole).  Relations are to opposing potentials of a distinction as things are to relations.  Opposing potentials are themselves a precipitate of the whole by virtue of distinction (of Fire by Fire), and work alongside each other within the whole simultaneously.  Each step from the whole is a kind of step-down transformation; ontologically we could say that beginning with level N, we move to level N-1.  Each level is pulled out of simultaneity by an act of distinction within the whole, of the whole, by the whole.  A cascading of levels of distinction thus yields the ontology of “things.” (more…)

  • First and Second-Order Epistemologies

    First and Second-Order Epistemologies

    Gregory Bateson (1991) famously said that we “cannot claim to have no epistemology. Those who so claim have nothing but a bad epistemology” (p. 178).  Bateson is calling for self-reflection in our epistemology.  He wants it to be recursive, so that in our production of knowledge we do not delude ourselves into thinking that the means of production is independent of what is produced.  Bradford Keeney, cybernetic epistemologist, family therapist, modern day New Orleans-style shaman, and student of Gregory Bateson, notes that recursive epistemology has roots in second-order cybernetics and the recognition (1983) that “any distinction drawn is drawn by an observer. … An observer observes by drawing distinctions. … The starting point of epistemology is therefore an observer drawing distinctions in order to observe” (p. 24). This leads us to a fundamental recursion or non-linearity at the very start of any epistemological endeavor. While non-recursive epistemologies try to mitigate this kind of loopiness, cybernetic epistemology embraces it as the very heart of knowing, using it as a creative generator of change and transformation. Working with a non-lineal epistemology leads to a different kind of knowing, one which “emphasizes ecology, relationship, and whole systems. In contrast to lineal epistemology, it is attuned to interrelation, complexity, and context” (Keeney, 1983, p. 107).

    The consequences of lacking a self-reflexive epistemology are dire, leading to real practical and ethical dilemmas.  The structure of the sequence often goes something like this:

    • Knowledge is produced on the basis of a non-reflexive epistemology (Bateson’s “bad” epistemology). Ex: You performed an act found to be illegal.
    • The knowledge produced is thus assumed to be “objective” and “true” (i.e. independent of the means of its production; ignorant of its genesis). Ex: It doesn’t really matter why you did what you did, you are beholden to the law as written.
    • This tends to have a psychologically limiting effect with respect to alternative knowledge and especially alternative modes of knowledge production.  One’s viewpoint becomes ossified. Ex: The judicial system limits its treatment of you as a whole human being only to what is allowable within the strictures that the law defines. You become identified with your act.
    • The unreflective assumption of the “truth” of the knowledge becomes justification for its projection, often forcefully, onto other people and processes in the environments surrounding the knower.  A sense of conviction that the world is “like this” leads to inflexible protocols in our institutions and in our modes of interaction with others.  In other words, outer processes are also ossified; they become sclerotic. Ex: Now, instead of being a whole human being who with a completely full and complex life that included the illegal act, your identity shifts to that of a criminal. Your identity shifts, and you are now identified with the label “criminal,” and the judicial system creates places called prisons designed largely to maintain this distinction of your new identity.

    The unintended effects of this kind of lineal process knowledge production could fill multiple volumes, from the most subtle aspects of daily life to world-historical events. But recursive epistemology is not in opposition to lineal epistemology; it is rather meant to be a way of maintaining complexity and subtlety (and ideally, wisdom) by calibrating the linearity of standard epistemological practices through higher-order recursion.

    Calibration and Self-Calibration.

    But what does it mean to have a self-reflexive epistemology?  The difference between the two types of epistemologies, non-self-relfexive and self-reflexive, can be described by the first and second order difference.  A non-self-reflexive epistemology is a first-order epistemology, a process of creating knowledge that operates in a linear fashion.  The knowledge it generates is not explicitly connected to the process of its generation, and thus does not act as a potential corrective to its mode of production.  Epistemology is a tool for knowing; but with a non-self-reflexive epistemology, the tool’s operation does not change the tool, so that no matter what job it is called to do, it re-instances any new creations in the manner and style of its past processes—regardless of what might be new in the situation it encounters.  The kind of newness that comes from a linear epistemology is (more…)

  • Observing the Observer: Exploring a Cybernetic Epistemological Recursion

    Observing the Observer: Exploring a Cybernetic Epistemological Recursion

    All epistemologies are observer-dependent; i.e. there is no single epistemology that applies to all possible observers, because every observer is unique in some way.  The necessary inclusion of the observer in any description of the world is a deeply obvious and yet profound principle.  It was neatly expressed in Heinz von Foerster’s article Cybernetics of Cybernetics, where he builds off of Humberto Maturana’s phrase “Anything said is said by an observer,” by indicating that “Anything said is said to an observer” (2003, p. 283) (figure 1).  This is in contrast to the view that anything said is simply… said, as if into a vacuum.  This older view, championed by the scientific revolution, took up the principle that statements could simply be true or false, and were about the world but not really of the world (the roots of these two views can be traced back to Plato and Aristotle).  Cybernetic epistemology modifies this assumption by re-introducing the observer as a part of the world.

    Figure 1: Observers 1 and 2
    Figure 1. A cybernetics of description following Heinz von Foerster. There are two different observers involved in any description; observer 1 is the describer, and observer 2 is the one to whom the description is directed.

    (Side note: it is important to indicate that perspectives on just what this word “observer” might mean can be helpfully explored also through esoteric methods.  In an significant way a central—perhaps even the central—aspect of esoteric practice involves the closing of the loop of observation.  Esoteric practice in general (always with caveats) can be thought of as the experiential exploration of the cybernetic epistemological injunction that no description of reality can be complete without an integration of the describer in the description.)

    While von Foerster links the principle explicitly to the social realm (2003, p. 284) by distinguishing (more…)

  • Sleep, Dreams and Video Games

    Sleep, Dreams and Video Games

    How you use your attention in waking life has definite effects in your dreaming life.  The following is my distillation of some insights from anthroposophy in this regard, which I offer as one way of looking at this phenomenon, specifically around the issue of video games and dreaming.  This post should provide an appropriate background if necessary.

    If people are comfortable with the terms, we can talk about how the astral body (the subtle body that allows something outside to become something for us inwardly; i.e. the sense-body, which we share with animals) gains its content in large part by reflecting itself off of the etheric body (the less subtle body that keeps your body from becoming a corpse, which we share with the plant realm).

    When you spend hours of time focusing your senses on particular stimuli (i.e. a video game) your are patterning your etheric body through physiological repetitions: the movements of your eyes, hands, breathing, etc., and more importantly in the endocrine responses and other physiological changes that go along with the particular game experience.  Knowing why this is important needs a little background first.

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    When you go to sleep, and you are no longer imposing your astral body on your etheric (i.e. choosing where to direct your attention and what sensations you will seek and avoid) your etheric body starts to (more…)

  • Patterns in Process: Transdisciplinarity as a Background for Working with the Elemental Cycle of Transformation

    Patterns in Process: Transdisciplinarity as a Background for Working with the Elemental Cycle of Transformation

    Elemental Cycle Abstract

    This essay outlines connections between the Elemental Cycle as an archetype of transformation, transdisciplinarity, and  cybernetics.  A number of questions are addressed: the nature and importance of connecting these fields, an examination of resources and the dominant disciplinary discourses for the associated fields, and a critical examination of my assumptions, beliefs, and position.

    Introduction

    How often do we find ourselves in a position of not being able to see something unless it is first pointed out to us?  This happens all the time with the visual and other physical senses, but of course also occurs in our thinking; certain concepts seem to hide in plain sight, and unless we are cued into where and how to look for (or to think about) them, they slide on by as a part of the undifferentiated background of conceptual life.  Usually we are introduced to these sorts of concepts just like we are to new people, through a third party who is already familiar with each of us: “Seth, I’d like you to meet Recursion; Recursion, this is Seth.”  Often with this sort of introduction comes an experience: “Oh hello Recursion!  You know, I feel like you must hang out at some of the same coffee-shops as I do, but we’ve never been formally introduced.”  And so a relationship begins with a concept, and just as with human beings, you can become more intimate and familiar, get into fights, seek new levels of understanding, and go on adventures. (more…)